(1 Corinthians 6:19, NIV). Thus, we are complete in Him: "And you are complete in Him, who is the head of all principality and power" (Colossians 2:10).
Helping Strategy
Only when our fellowship with God has been restored can we experience full fellowship with our fellow humans. Whether dealing with Christians or nonbelievers, the helper must approach the problem of loneliness from this perspective.
For the Lonely Non-Christian:
1. Offer a word of encouragement. In sharing his or her problem of loneliness, the inquirer is admitting a need. This is important in solving any problem in life. Offer reassurance that this first important step can lead to a satisfactory solution.
2. Try to determine the causes of the person's loneliness. If not enough information is forthcoming, ask relevant questions: Where does the caller live? Who are his or her neighbors? Where does he or she work? Is the job satisfactory? What about hobbies, friendships, church, etc.?
3. Determine whether the caller has ever received Christ as Savior. Explain "Steps to Peace with God," page 11. The first step in God's plan for the person's life can be realized only by receiving Christ, and that first step should also take care of much of the alienation he or she feels. He or she will be at peace with God (Romans 5:1) and will have Christ as a constant friend: "There is a friend who sticks closer than a brother" (Proverbs 18:24).
4. Suggest seeking spiritual growth by reading and studying the Bible and learning to pray. Offer to send Living in Christ for initial help with Bible study. The daily exercise of prayer will do much to diminish lingering feelings of aloneness, as it provides immediate access to God, who is "a very present help in trouble" (Psalm 46:1).
5. Recommend seeking a relationship with a Bible-teaching church where warmth of fellowship and opportunities for worship and service can be found. Advise that he or she must not expect too much too quickly. Meaningful relationships do not develop overnight; they must be cultivated, and this takes time. The more the lonely person gives, the more he or she will receive from others: "A man who has friends must himself be friendly" (Proverbs 18:24). Explain that some churches have a singles fellowship, if this should be of interest.